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Defining a Community Household of my own - The Autobiography of Russell
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Defining a Community Household of my own
Have you read the book "Stranger in a Strange Land" by Robert A. Heinlein? If you have then you probably have some clue where this entry is going to go.

I just finished reading it. It sang to me. I flew, fell, and rose with it, and it took me places I dream of to some extent or another. It showed me how to imagine the things I wish for. It reminded me that they're possible if even one person can imagine them enough to write about them.

I don't dream of a large house with a white picket fence, a spouse, and two and a half kids. I don't dream of turning my life into play dates with other couples. The stereotypical life or American dream, I don't dream of.

I dream of a community house, a place where anyone does whatever they want, and mutually with anyone who is part of the house or accepted guests. People who come and go as they please. People who may dine together, or not. People who may smoke together, or not. People who may play together, or not. People who may sleep together, or not. The phrase "What's mine is yours" speaks to me in a neutral or reciprocative way, nor is it limited to just a life partner. I may buy a TV for the living room, but you're welcome to ask and use it too. I may buy a game, but you're welcome to ask and play it too. I may buy food, but you're welcome to ask and partake of it as well.

I must be insane, or so I think, because this is what I dream of. Yet I don't truly view myself as insane, so there must be some basis in reality for this to happen. I don't think it's wrong.

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legolastn From: legolastn Date: June 27th, 2010 03:40 am (UTC) (Link)
Of course it's not insane, or wrong. And many people make similar situations a reality, to varying degrees.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 27th, 2010 03:55 am (UTC) (Link)
Well, yeah. :-) Your cohousing community back in Tucson is something like what I imagine a larger community would be like, or a bigger scale than a single household. Or a community of community households. Or something. :-)
vaelynphi From: vaelynphi Date: June 27th, 2010 06:12 am (UTC) (Link)

::sigh::

It's an ideal, and as such something that usually requires either great struggle, or incredibly mature people (who are, to my mind, few and far in between).

Sounds nice, though.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 27th, 2010 05:43 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: ::sigh::

Agreed. Or some incredibly relaxed and/or possibly very agreeable individuals.

pdmorehouse's house is something like that, and it's where I'm currently staying in Seattle.
scixual From: scixual Date: June 27th, 2010 06:40 am (UTC) (Link)
our home in San Diego came pretty close. We needed a better bathroom, though.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 27th, 2010 05:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
This one has two and a half (with the half being on the common floor (kitchen, living room, patio, entrances, etc)). I suppose each bedroom could have an attached bathroom and a half bath near the common area. Sounds like a custom build. :-)
pdmorehouse From: pdmorehouse Date: June 27th, 2010 05:22 pm (UTC) (Link)
thats kinda how our house works. well accept the sleeping together part. no that some of us haven't
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 27th, 2010 05:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Precisely. Your house is one of the reasons I found the concept so exciting, because it seemed so realistic and possible.
divaprime From: divaprime Date: June 27th, 2010 07:40 pm (UTC) (Link)
SIASL saved my life. I was 14 and starting to despair of ever meeting anyone who wasn't possessive, jealous and selfish. I felt like a total freak. I didn't "grok" popular songs and movies, with few exceptions. My cousin gave the book to me saying "This guy sounds like you".

For a slightly different view from the same author read The Moon is a Harsh Mistress. The line family described in there is what I try for.

In my most recent rereading I was very disappointed in the passage of homophobia in "Stranger" but he gets over that in his later books.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 29th, 2010 01:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't recall a passage specifically about homophobia. There was one where Jubal said he was too old to change just to experience the kind of kiss Mike was giving the girls. There was also a passage where Ben ran out after Mike had declothed himself in what appeared to be a group orgy, but I don't think that's because Ben was being homophobic. Was it one of those or another one that you're referring to?

It's funny, almost everyone I've talked to about this who has read it before has then recommended a different book of his to me, and no one has recommended the same book twice so far.
damnitnicole From: damnitnicole Date: June 29th, 2010 06:13 am (UTC) (Link)
This works out very well on the renfaire campgrounds I've lived on. Everyone must have their own tent/space, though.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 29th, 2010 01:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
I agree. Private space is something that came up with someone I talked about this entry with verbally. At the time I wrote it I had factored that in without explicitly thinking about it, but it's definitely a necessity for something like this to work. Even in "Stranger in a Strange Land" each person still had their own room, especially Mike when he needed time to withdraw to think about things.
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