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The Autobiography of Russell
Life from a different perspective
I think I'm in trouble.
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swanhart From: swanhart Date: September 2nd, 2005 05:50 pm (UTC) (Link)
What happened?
zimzat From: zimzat Date: September 2nd, 2005 06:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well, let's see...

I've been putting off calling vbseth, who I had asked via email what he did in his situation. I waited about a week or so for a response and then he said to call him and we'd talk about it (I'm not to sure what there is to talk about; I just want to know how he handled the situation). I avoid using the phone like the plague if I can... (I know him mostly through association with d2leddy and I've never talked to him on the phone before, which makes it all the more ... frightening.)

I'm also having trouble coming to terms with the "agree to disagree [and keep going]" bit. Rob and I are disagreeing quite a bit over the war in iraq, supporting the troops, and what public service is to this country. I don't have an opinion very often or on a lot of things but when I do it's usually a very strong opinion which I know is right (at least from what I know). Usually when I disagree with someone over an opinion I can let it go because I don't have to continue associating with them, which obviously isn't the case in this situation.

There are other things that I can't think of off hand, but at least they're less pressing (I think).
swanhart From: swanhart Date: September 2nd, 2005 08:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well everybody has opinions. I don't agree with my mother at all about the war/etc but we still get along. I just avoid the subject as much as possible, and if it does come up, I state my opinion, let everybody know that it isn't going to change, and if they want to "discuss", then I am prepared to give justification for my feelings, though I don't expect to sway them to my way of thinking.

Healthy debate is just that, healthy. If you can't let things go, and "agree to disagree" then that presents a problem. I know you think you are right, but he thinks he is just as right as you are. In the end, nobody is an absolute authority on anything, and the truth is only available in degrees, in other words, there are no absolutes.

The solution is pretty simple, just find something else to talk about. Either that, or get rid of him, because his ideology is different from yours. I don't think that is the right solution, but you have to do whatever works for you.
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