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The Dummies Guide To Conversations
I think I need do a short tutorial on how to establish and maintain a dialog with someone.

The first part of any conversation is an introductory phrase ("Hello, how are you doing?", "Hey, could I ask you a question?", etc). The other person will then give an appropriate response.

At this point the dialog has been started and it is then your responsibility to develop it further. This can be accomplished with something like commenting on something nearby or talking about a recent event (personal or otherwise). Give some information about it but don't ramble to the point where you are dominating the conversation. The other person will then comment on what you said and ask for more information or talk about something similar. This back and forth will then repeat as each person responds to the other person.

This exchange and change of topics is then called a conversation.

The number one way to kill a conversation is to not respond with another conversation topic. This is usually accomplished by giving one or two word statements, such as "Yeah.". This then forces the speaker to keep talking about the topic or find something else to talk about. If this repeats several times then the speaker will often stop trying to have a conversation and leave you to die. Ok, maybe not die, but they won't be encouraged to continue talking.

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pdmorehouse From: pdmorehouse Date: November 15th, 2006 09:51 pm (UTC) (Link)
hmmm sounds like a gay.com conversation
neo_prodigy From: neo_prodigy Date: November 15th, 2006 09:53 pm (UTC) (Link)
agreed.
irish_n_sac From: irish_n_sac Date: November 15th, 2006 10:00 pm (UTC) (Link)

Yepp

sorry couldn't help it...
zimzat From: zimzat Date: November 15th, 2006 10:03 pm (UTC) (Link)
The entire thing or just the "How to kill a conversation" part?

I haven't had a conversation on Gay.com in so many years; ever since they changed it to require a subscriptions to send messages. I almost never have time to just sit in the chat room so that's not a viable alternative for me.

The "How to kill a conversation" is how a lot of my IM conversations have been going lately. Oh, and Facebook/MySpace too. Most of those don't even get to the 'introductory response' part (in other words no response), though, or they just stop responding.
pdmorehouse From: pdmorehouse Date: November 15th, 2006 10:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
the whole how to kill a conversation part is what i was refering to. when i want a conversation to end i start giving shorter and shorter response until they say something that doesn't require a response
irish_n_sac From: irish_n_sac Date: November 15th, 2006 10:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
Once it gets past a certain point if they are just following along with the ,Yeah, Sure, Yes, Nope,etc.. it's time ta drop and go, most places like Gay.com are more about the Hook up then really meeting people.
Now that's if your talking about online convo's.

In-person convo's tend to work out a little better, you get the reactions of the person and the emotion behind those reactions. That would tend to work as 'he likes this" well talk more or "he's looking around" time to change it up"
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