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zimzat
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Thoughtless
Thanks to my sister's thoughtless and careless self, her cat is now going through heat because she never got it spaded. It's very loudly whining, among other thing, which, of course, only my brother and I have to deal with because she's gone almost all the time. Personally I'm ready to just kick the cat out the door, except because it hasn't been spaded it'll just become a cat factory (especially right now). That and she still hasn't gotten her cat the shots it is supposed to have.

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neo_prodigy From: neo_prodigy Date: January 29th, 2007 02:33 pm (UTC) (Link)
has she said what she's going to do about the kittens?
starwind_ From: starwind_ Date: January 29th, 2007 02:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
fyi, cats in this state are either on or off -- she'll pretty much stay this way until she DOES ah..find some relief :p So, either spay her, knock her up, or get used to this for pretty much the rest of her natural life.
starwind_ From: starwind_ Date: January 29th, 2007 03:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh, and as another thought -- your sister is a thoughtless, worthless human being IMO if she cannot respect her animal enough to care for her. People who get an animal because it will be "cute" or "fun" and then basically dump it, should not breathe my air OR reproduce.

It's too bad we cant let people experience this sort of thing -- perhaps they would be more understanding if they had perma-PMS until they got pregnant or got their tubes tied. Animals dont have the choice for birth control and are sadly at the mercy of their human.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 29th, 2007 05:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
That's my sister alright. She got the kitten because she thought it was cute, thought it would be fun to raise it, and wanted to help out one of her friends by taking the kitten off their hands. *shakes head*

She doesn't want to admit she can't take care of her own cat, either. Last night I locked her cat in the upstairs bathroom (where its food, water, and litter box are) because it would sit outside my brother's bedroom or mine and meow very loudly. This morning after my sister got home (at like 10am) she stormed downstairs and demanded to know why her cat was locked in the upstairs bathroom. I told her because it's in heat and meowing very loudly. Her response was that locking the cat in the bathroom wouldn't make it stop and that it would pass in time. *sigh*
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 29th, 2007 06:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
Alas, I have no intention of intentionally getting her cat knocked up. For one thing, I wouldn't want to deal with her kittens and, for another, this cat is definitely not very friendly. The fact that the cat's mother is the same way yet they let her get knocked up and have kittens is pathetic. I would also rather not pay to get her spayed myself because, if I did, I would probably never see a penny of that money back from my sister (I also just paid all my bills so would have to wait until I get paid this Friday to not also be broke).
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 29th, 2007 06:09 pm (UTC) (Link)
... Her cat isn't let outside, so she isn't the least worried about dealing with kittens. She's also rarely home, so she doesn't have to listen to her cat meow all day long. It's a lose-lose situation since she also doesn't want to spend the money to get it spaded (not that she even has the money with all the bills, expenses, and lack of time she has).
starwind_ From: starwind_ Date: January 29th, 2007 06:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
Well you let her know this will NOT "pass in time." Cats are not like dogs. Dogs have a set period of fertility. Cats do not. IMO, you need to tell her this and if she does nothing, that cat needs to go to a shelter. At least there it will get proper care and a merciful end if no one adopts it. Some shelters spay/neuter all their animals -- the fee you pay when you adopt it is to cover that.

Some of the shelters, if you call, can tell you where to get cheap, or sometimes even free spay/neuter service. I know one of my local ones has a once or twice a year free/donation service to do this. It pays for them because peopel will DO it, then there will be less unloved little animals running around.

So, check into that. And, if your sister remains uncaring or unaccepting of the realities of life and pet ownership, take the cat to a shelter while she is gone. Children are taken from their parents when they are not cared for, this is no different. And dont tell her what shelter. If the cat is euthanized, it is 1. better for it than this and 2. her fault.


And yes, this is one of the issues that absolutely makes me furious.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 29th, 2007 07:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
I've looked up the estrus period on several websites and sent her a text message with all the details. I also told her (although I probably shouldn't have) the ultimatum that if she doesn't get it done then I'm going to give the cat to a shelter who would do it and get the cat a better home or put down. Her response was "Shut up.....". Umm, yeah. *sigh* Can you tell we fight a lot, and about virtually everything?

And yes, this is one of the issues that absolutely makes me furious.

I feel ya. I really do. I've wanted a cat for a long time myself, but I know I couldn't provide for it properly (then, at least. I might be able to now, but not yet (and not her cat)).
starwind_ From: starwind_ Date: January 29th, 2007 08:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
Erm..wow I dont want to think about the abbreviations used for this sort of thing in a text message.

Anyway, as far as "shut up" goes, maybe it will at least be on her mind now. Regardless, she is now informed, if she was truly ignorant of the facts before -- so she no longer has any excuse. A pet is (or should be)a committment. If she can't hack it, she doesnt deserve it, and you are fully justified in giving the cat to a shelter. I am sure they will sympathize when you tell them your reasoning.

Now the issue is to set a time limit, and stick to it. You do not have to tell her this limit, but stick with it. I do not know if your brother is at all supportive of you in this -- but it might help if he is, in dealing with the post giving away of cat anger situation.

Whatever you do, dont bring up to her that the yowling is annoying or whatever -- stick to the issue that it is not fair to the animal. It is not healthy or happy, mentally or physically. If she truly does care for it, she will 1. accept that this is a necessity or 2. own up to the fact she cannot care for an animal at this time, through perhaps no fault of her own (money, time, whatever)

It's not fair to you that your sister is entering the role I would assign to a child (ie parent has to teach them responsibility) and that you have to be the parent, but such is life.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 29th, 2007 10:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
Actually, there were no abbreviations used. We both use Verizon, and my phone has a QWERTY-like key pad, so I wrote it all out (including some emphasis on the time frames).

I've set a time limit (two weeks) and I think it's reasonable to at least get the ball rolling. When I talked to my brother last night about the cat he didn't know how long they can be in heat either. When he gets home today I'll tell him about what I've found out and what I intend to do about it.

I just called one of the local veterinary clinics around here and they want 84$ to spade the cat. Uh... ouch. I'm going to ask one of my managers at my work about it since she knows a lot about animals and shelters around here. At the very least she might be able to recommend a shelter to give the cat to, and maybe even somewhere less expensive to get it spaded.

As for it being fair... living with her is hardly ever fair. I just cleaned the bathroom (tub, sink, and floor; I didn't have a toilet brush with me), and it hasn't been cleaned in over a month. The sad part about this is that I was the last one to clean it, yet she is the one that complains about it being dirty all the time (We're supposed to be taking turns on who cleans it, but she's "too busy"). Never mind how much she complains about the rest of the house being "dirty", yet never seems to have the time to clean any of it or even her own stuff. *shakes head*
raist_ From: raist_ Date: January 30th, 2007 01:45 am (UTC) (Link)
You can use a Q-tip to end the cat in heat problem.

I know it sounds weird, but you basically use the q-tip like a male cat.... and, well you get the idea. It'll get her out of heat for at least a little while, but she still needs to go get the damned thing spayed.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 30th, 2007 02:48 am (UTC) (Link)
My sister said she has to wait for her to get out of heat before she can be spayed (which isn't entirely true of cats), so I mentioned your suggestion. Her response was (to me) "You have a sick mind." heh

Ah, yes, gotta love her. Not.
starwind_ From: starwind_ Date: January 30th, 2007 03:23 am (UTC) (Link)
you can actually do that. Its what the vet would probably do to halt her for a few days. They have this tool that looks, basically, like the clear tubular glue sticks you put in a glue gun.

Cat is faked out for a bit until the hormones dont go away.
But I do not actually know that there is truth to the "they cant be in heat and get the operation"

generally when I knew a vet did it, it was because they wanted to breed the cat, but didnt want an "accident" to occur before the desired male was available
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