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"Ask" vs "Guess" Culture
I was just reading about the "Ask" vs "Guess" culture via a polyamory post about what to ask for.

I think one comment the original poster (mama_hogswatch) made says something about each culture quite well:
The "Guess" culture expects other people to protect their boundaries.
The "Ask" culture protects their own.

I grew up in a "Guess" culture, but am actively changing to an "Ask" culture. There are still times when I hesitate to ask, but thanks to my last visit to St. Louis those are very rare now.

What about you?

Which culture did you grow up in?

Ask
1(20.0%)
Guess
3(60.0%)
Mixed
1(20.0%)

Which culture are you now?

Ask
2(40.0%)
Guess
0(0.0%)
Mixed
3(60.0%)


I was going to make this part of the poll, but decided to leave it off in favor of putting it in the comments. Once you've submitted your answers come back and tell me in your own words any further thoughts you have about the "Ask" and "Guess" cultures. (Specifically, if you're of the "Guess" culture, why?)

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zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 10th, 2007 09:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
I wonder if there is any correlation to culture by religion. I'm just thinking that maybe Christians, and at least fundamentalists, are of the "Guess" culture.
sisyphus238 From: sisyphus238 Date: June 10th, 2007 11:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
I grew up in Northern New England where things were fairly settled as well as fraught with lots of passive aggression
zimzat From: zimzat Date: June 10th, 2007 11:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm guessing "passive aggression" meaning "Guess" mentality. Yeah... That kind of thing may work well with people who know each other very well (best friends, close-knit families, etc).
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