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The Autobiography of Russell
Life from a different perspective
Another day at work and attempting to socialize
My humor recovery process failed on the way back from lunch Friday so I ended up outing myself. One of the guys I went to lunch with made a tease about being gay when the car rounded a bend and I slide into him in the back seat. I couldn't think of a good retort quickly so someone else joined in on the teasing, saying that I was "among friends", "safe place", "it's ok to come out of the closet". So I did the only thing I could think of doing; I said I wasn't in the closet and wasn't trying to hide it. It took them a moment to realize what I said and what that meant, and then they spent the next minute or so assuring me that's cool with them. Oye.

I thought everyone at work knew I was gay already. I had outed myself previously on the internal chat channel so I figured everyone just knew. Don't straight people gossip with each other over who is gay? Either that or I had stayed so quiet about it that they had completely forgotten. Oh well, we'll see next week how this affects the social lunch network. I suspect one person is a little homophobic based on how quickly he got out of the car at lunch Friday (I was in the middle of the backseat; the other wimps refused to ride in the middle; pfft heheh).

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Current Music: "Inspiration" by Ian Van Dahl

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zimzat From: zimzat Date: May 5th, 2008 03:14 am (UTC) (Link)
Indeed. That's typically how I end up outing myself to people around me; just casual conversation and not being able to say no or clarifying a 'do you have a girlfriend'. I'm a little surprised I didn't do that with the movers earlier today when one of them asked if I was moving in with my old woman.
raist_ From: raist_ Date: May 5th, 2008 01:20 pm (UTC) (Link)

On straight people gossiping...

Usually, if they don't care that you're gay, they don't gossip too much.

Point in fact: I've known a friend of mine here for the last couple years now. Found out last fall that he was gay. And then I thought about it. And realized that not only is he openly gay, but he's about as flaming flamboyent as you can probably get and not be Michael Jackson. :p But I never really thought about it, and noone ever mentioned it, so I just kinda went with it.

Not that it changed anything between us. Other then it made the bantering vastly more amusing at times.

The kicker is if they start to treat you differently not that they know. It may very well be that they were correct when they said it was cool with them. *shrug*
zimzat From: zimzat Date: May 25th, 2008 02:32 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: On straight people gossiping...

Interesting. Thanks.

I always knew that people couldn't tell because I don't act it, but then I also figured everyone could just tell anyway. Part of that irrational fear of being rejected.
raist_ From: raist_ Date: May 25th, 2008 11:52 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: On straight people gossiping...

No problem.

On average, I've noticed most people that are going to reject you are going to reject you regardless. The reason is just an excuse for themselves.
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