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Establish An Explicit Personal Privacy Policy
In talking with romeohotel about an argument that was had earlier today, I was reminded that I need to remind those around me that they need to be explicit with me regarding what their expectations are regarding privacy. If I'm not explicitly told not to tell something then it could get told, in ways that weren't implied.

If you expect me to keep something between the two of us, you need to say so. If you expect it to only be mentioned within a certain group, you need to say so. If you expect it to just not be posted somewhere public, you need to say so. Otherwise the assumption is anything goes. If you're not okay with that policy, I suggest you not tell me.

LiveJournal posts (and thus Facebook posts) (never mind, Facebook doesn't show me what your wall posts are set to) where the privacy level is obvious go without saying. If you post something friends-only then I consider it only to be mentioned within your friends group (if you post it within a stricter filter than you'll need to be explicit on that, since I have no visibility to group filtering).

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zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 17th, 2011 12:23 am (UTC) (Link)
This explicit 'privacy policy' also needs to include things like in-person chat, text messages, and IM conversations. I've gotten into trouble more than once when someone got offended (and just a little hysterical sometimes) that I mentioned something said or whatever to anyone else.
vaelynphi From: vaelynphi Date: January 18th, 2011 02:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm going to guess that most people are going to want *anything* pertaining to their work, sex life, or even maybe family automatically held in confidence.

I'm the exception probably to all of those rules.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: January 19th, 2011 12:33 am (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, I don't do private by default.

Most people who want their sex life private are probably just prudes.
Most people who want their family life private are probably just ashamed.

Work I can see some things being held in confidence, especially if you happened to blab too much about confidential stuff, but if you never talk about confidential stuff then there's nothing to be worried about.
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