Russell (zimzat) wrote,

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Failure to pick up on behavior clues = epic communication failure

It's been a bit since I've posted, so time to post about several things in a row, yes?

On Saturdays susandennis has been picking me up to join her for Aqua Aerobics at a pool a decent ways north of here. By bus it would take around an hour, but by car it's only ~15-20 minutes or so. For the previous few weeks we've made this trip without much incident, but this last weekend things just went wrong in so many ways. There was road construction, we missed the interstate ramp, there was more road construction, and then the maps voice navigation just kept telling us to plow through the road construction like it didn't exist. I couldn't tell it at the time, but this immensely frustrated susandennis. Without realizing it I made matters much worse by laughing at the voice navigation telling us to u-turn back into road construction at every intersection as we traveled away. I was trying to make the best of a bad situation, but failed miserably. She let me know that I was not helping matters, and I suddenly realized that I had crossed a line and shut up. We did eventually find our way onto the interstate and made it there without missing any of the class, but the rest of the trip was in awkward silence and I suspect she was hoping to stop by the gas station on the way in.

This has made it crystal clear to me that I need to do something to compensate her for taking time out of her schedule and the added potential headache in picking me up. I'm not sure if it should be a nominal amount of money, like the price the bus would have cost, some form of food or baked good, paying for brunch with her once or twice a month, or something else that she would appreciate. I could probably offer assistance with her network issues, or buy some yarn for her bear or other knitting projects. I'll give it some more thought then ask her what she would like. She previously turned down gas money, but I'd still be willing to do that from time to time as well. It's not fair for her to do this just as a favor to me if I can't give something back.
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