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The Autobiography of Russell
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  • 2013-04-06 20:20 RT @Emboof: Adult friends should be like child friends: pop-ins, hanging out on the fly, doing random things just because, & exploring. Why the change?


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scixual From: scixual Date: April 10th, 2013 01:33 pm (UTC) (Link)
You clearly have the wrong adult friends.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: April 10th, 2013 02:15 pm (UTC) (Link)


Being an introvert, and not being accepted by the gay community, geek community, or any other community, and not having a solution to the "where to meet friends" problem the video leaves unanswered also doesn't help. It also doesn't help that most of the friends I do have live in other parts of the country so spontaneous events aren't feasible.
scixual From: scixual Date: April 10th, 2013 02:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
I can empathize.

I'm still not very good at it, but I have been getting better over the years.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: April 10th, 2013 03:20 pm (UTC) (Link)
I keep trying to psych myself up to start conversations with random people on the bus, yet it still hasn't happened. It would be pure hit or miss with very little advanced filter, but it sounds like fun.... until the moment to actually go up and do it happens. Then I get cold feet, shy, and doubt myself.

I'd love to find people on OkCupid, start up a quick (yet not necessarily small) conversation, then jump directly to meeting at a cafe or coffee shop and continuing it in-person. Pretty much everyone stops talking when I mention meeting in-person, though.
scixual From: scixual Date: April 10th, 2013 03:25 pm (UTC) (Link)
Vegas is so extrovert by nature and culture I can imagine it might be quite intimidating.
zimzat From: zimzat Date: April 10th, 2013 03:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oddly enough, I had more friends in Las Vegas than anywhere else in my life. Almost none of them were gay, but I have no qualms (and actually prefer) not being segregated based on sexual preference. On the other hand, most of them were poly or poly-friendly.

I live in Seattle now. It's ... different. The only social scene I've found that I like so far is a (non-gay-specific) gaming group that meets an hour out of town. The local gay gaming group is exclusive and anti-social to new members. Plus, they tend to have the same problem I have with gays and/or geeks everywhere: They all just want to talk about the hot new TV show. I don't watch TV much.
scixual From: scixual Date: April 10th, 2013 03:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
Ah, I'd missed that you'd relocated, or forgotten.

I'm not really familiar with Seattle culture, but it seems like it might be a touch insular, until you find a niche that accepts you...

zimzat From: zimzat Date: April 11th, 2013 12:07 am (UTC) (Link)
Heh, no biggie. I've actually moved a few times since Las Vegas. When I dropped by your place I was already moved out of Las Vegas, though I hadn't moved to anywhere else yet (technically homeless). Soon after that I moved to Atlanta, and then almost a year ago I moved to Seattle. You could say I move often. I don't have any plans for another place yet though.

Seattle is ... yeah, insular would be a good way of putting it. It's even harder to get a first date here than anywhere else I've been. The selection. Is very unusual compared to most places too.
scixual From: scixual Date: April 11th, 2013 12:44 am (UTC) (Link)
One often has to stay in one place for a while to find / create one's community.
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